Nice to Meet You

Welcome to WLE. A place where breathwork, meditation and accessible yoga can be found.

Photography by SJW Photos

WHO

I’m Esta. I grew up in the West coast of Canada and moved to the prairies over fifteen years ago. I love it here, even when it’s super cold, there’s sunshine. 🌞 I started learning yoga online over a decade ago, then went to studio classes, and during the pandemic, I took my Yoga Teacher Training 200 Hour course. I then immediately signed up for my 300 Hour, which I am completing now – at a slower pace.

I love to laugh, am always seeking the silver lining and I fill my cup with garden time, meditation, yoga and writing. My husband and the two children in my life are a constant source of love and joy. They keep my love cup filled, inspire me and keep me present – all of which are main goals these days. 🧘

WHAT

My mission is to bring yoga tools into modern life. When I say yoga tools, I don’t just mean yoga asana – the physical yoga poses themselves. I mean the breathwork, meditation, observation of the self, and an ever-evolving level of connection and love towards the self and others. 🙏

WHEN

The tools I am sharing, are meant to be accessible on the timing of the people they serve. The schedule of new WLE content is broken down below, and will be recapped in The WLE Weekly, a newsletter highlighting the guided meditation, yoga pose breakdown and thoughts with love from me, sent out Saturday mornings at 9 AM (CST). The beauty of building these libraries is that they can be visited on your own schedule and paused! unlike a studio class 😉

Meditation Monday – Guided Meditation of the week is posted on my Spotify and YouTube.

Yoga Pose Breakdown Wednesday – Weekly review of a single yoga pose is posted on YouTube.

Thoughts With Love is posted here on withloveesta.ca and highlighted in The WLE Weekly sent out Saturday morning. Join the mailing list or tune in to the channels that suit you!

WHERE

Largely online, the WLE library of guided meditations and yoga poses breakdowns will be housed here and on my social media channels. I want you to be able to tune in on your own timing and learn and absorb how best works for you. This project has been a long time in the making, I started it over three years ago! The value of technology and the ability to share over time and space is not lost on me – scroll down to the bottom of the page to follow me on YouTube, Instagram and Facebook 🥳

I am currently accepting a small number of 1:1 clients, more on that can be found in my post here.

WHY

I feel called to share. At my core, I am a deeply loving creature. I derive much joy from giving to others, nurturing and teaching. Just a few weeks ago, I left my nine to five to pursue this passion project with more focus. In conjunction with being a stay-at-home wife/stepmom (a role I truly feel born to step into!) – this corner of the internet is where I will be tending to these seeds. Manifesting a garden full of flowers to share with all! 🌼

HOW

Guided meditation, yoga videos and blog posts are the mediums I am focusing on now, but that too will evolve over time. My goal is to share tools people can learn and adapt to their own style – and then use again and again. 🧰

The blog posts to come will be less formal, but it’s always nice to meet the person behind the handle/blog/video! Is there anything I missed in my introduction? Leave me a comment below!

I will leave this post with a final thought, something I have been pondering:

why does saying no, taking time for self-care, and setting boundaries have such a rep for being “selfish” – when the results are so selfless?

When I fill my own cup, take time for self-care, meditation, and journalling… I am a better partner, mother figure, friend, entrepreneur, yoga teacher. I can give from a deeper well.

When I say no, I define what it is that I want. I do not deceive myself or others by saying yes when I really want to decline. This truth allows me to be even more invested in my yes’s – and my loved ones will know that I say what I mean to them.

When I create boundaries, I am extending the life of a relationship. One cannot give endlessly without exhaustion, resentment and bitterness creeping in at the edges. Boundaries on my time, space, and energy, allow me to preserve these precious resources for what I want to give to.

flowers from our garden – to share 💖

Introducing 1:1 Sessions

Meditation or Yoga or both!

WHO

I am a certified Yoga Teacher, with over a decade of meditation experience. My direct experience with anxiety and depression symptoms, drove me to collect tools that would help me in my day to day. Now I want to share those tools with you!

WHAT

Meditation or yoga sessions, or a combo of both. 1/2 hour and 1 hour sessions available.

WHEN

Booking opened Feb 15, 2023 and you can choose a time that works for you. (Booking is through my Facebook page for now.)

WHERE

Virtual sessions are available, or in person if you’re in Winnipeg, MB. Booking is through my Facebook page for now.

WHY

Working from a place of love, and teaching tools/practises that have helped me, is calling me – I’ve got to share!

OUR FIRST 1:1

We will sit down on the first meeting and go over your desired outcome. Do you want to make meditation a practise in your life? Do you want to learn the names of yoga poses, so you can confidently attend a yoga class? Do you want a combo of meditation and yoga? Are you into yoga but want to go deeper on the spiritual side? Whatever your goals are, I look forward to our first session.
Our first session only needs to be 30 minutes, and we will customize a plan for you going forwards. If one off appointments are your speed, that works for me too.


Book a meditation or yoga session with me when it suits your schedule!
📲💻


See the 1:1 highlight on my page @withloveesta to book. And please drop a comment or message me with your questions! 🥰


Photo by Stephanie Janet Photos

Why Meditate?

What are the real life benefits – and where are my sources?

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While my personal relationship with meditation will look different than another’s experience with meditation … there are tangible benefits to practising meditation for anyone – including you!

Here’s Why I Meditate

  • to hold space for my own emotion and thought
  • to perform a “temperature check” on the body that carries me through each day
  • to tune in to my inner voice – and perhaps re-assess my self-talk (can I be kinder?)
  • seeking a calmness after focused relaxation and or breathing deeply
  • to practise being present in the moment
  • to fill my own cup, recharge, relish the stillness
  • to rewire the thought patterns that no longer serve me – what stories can I let go of in order to evolve?
Photo by Stephanie Janet Photos

Meditation isn’t the goal to simply “empty the mind”. The mind will forever twirl and wander and react and remember and puzzle solve… that’s normal. That’s what it does. With practise, you can pull more of the mind into calmness. Or have more of the mind follow a guided meditation, or mantra.

Don’t judge your meditation skills, which may only increase your stress. Meditation takes practice.

Mayo Clinic: Meditation: A simple, fast way to reduce stress

You don’t have to take just my word on the benefits of a meditation practise, let’s see what other reliable resources have to say on the matter.

Total Wellness Health Says:

  • Boosts immunity – the article references a study done that indicates meditation can boost the immune system. “Then, in the ‘80s it was discovered that the immune system is highly intelligent; it became known as “a floating brain” because of the ability of immune cells to participate in the chemical messages sent by the brain throughout the body. This means that your thoughts, moods, sensations, and expectations are transmitted to your immune cells. When you meditate, these messages change in important ways.” – Chopra.com
  • Decreases pain – scientists have linked mindfulness meditation and pain relief – and even if they can’t pinpoint why eactly – health experts reccomend regular meditation in addition to medical treatments for chronic pain
  • Boosts creativity – mindfulness meditation is said to “encourage creative thinking and problem solving”.
  • Lowers blood pressure – “most experts agree that meditation can be a good way to help lower blood pressure in addition to medical treatment, a healthy diet, and exercise.”
  • boosts emotional intelligence – “Mindfulness meditation helps teach us how to be aware of our feelings and emotions and how to process them better.”
  • boosts productivity – “Meditation helps clear our minds and focus on the present moment – which gives you a huge productivity boost.”

Forbes Says:

  • Stress reduction – “Meditation, which focuses on calming the mind and regulating emotion, can help to reduce chronic stress in the body and lower the risk of its side effects”.
  • Anxiety Management – “People with anxiety who regularly practiced meditation over the course of three years saw positive, long-term impacts on their mental health, according to a study in General Hospital Psychiatry[2].”
  • Lowers blood pressure – “Meditation has been noted to potentially provide promising results in decreasing high blood pressure, especially when paired with healthy lifestyle habits like a balanced diet and exercise.”
  • Strengthens immune system health – “Consistent meditation has been shown to reduce the body’s stress response, resulting in less inflammation and decreased risk of conditions such as chronic pain, fatigue and heart disease”.
  • improves memory – “When you practice meditation, your brain is able to produce more gray matter, researchers found in one study. Gray matter is crucial for healthy brain cognition, as it protects the hippocampus, the part of our brain connected to memory.”
  • improves sleep – “Research suggests meditation can improve a person’s ability to sleep and quality of sleep.”

Healthline Says:

  • reduce stress – “Furthermore, research has shown that meditation may also improve symptoms of stress-related conditions, including irritable bowel syndrome, post-traumatic stress disorder, and fibromyalgia”
  • reduce anxiety – “one study found that 8 weeks of mindfulness meditation helped reduce anxiety symptoms in people with generalized anxiety disorder, along with increasing positive self-statements and improving stress reactivity and coping”.
  • lengthens attention span – “Focused-attention meditation is like weight lifting for your attention span. It helps increase the strength and endurance of your attention.”
  • may reduce age related memory loss – “Furthermore, a review found preliminary evidence that multiple meditation styles can increase attention, memory, and mental quickness in older volunteers”.
  • improves sleep – “A variety of meditation techniques can help you relax and control runaway thoughts that can interfere with sleep. This can shorten the time it takes to fall asleep and increase sleep quality”.
  • can decrease blood pressure – “Blood pressure decreases not only during meditation but also over time in individuals who meditate regularly. This can reduce strain on the heart and arteries, helping prevent heart disease.”
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Leave me a comment below on what is stopping you from trying meditation. Time? Unsure where to start? Something else? I’d love to hear from you!

Meditating Through a 40 Day Kriya

Why I chose meditation as my practice to show up to for 40 days straight, and what’s a kriya anyway?

Photo by the wonderful StephanieJanet photos.

Let’s start with, what is a kriya anyway?

Kriya is a Sanskrit word meaning “effort” or “deed” – commonly translated as “a completed action”. It’s a self discipline exercise really: the showing up to the same practice every day for forty days.

The practice can be different for everyone. Maybe it’s a sun salutation, or specific yoga flow each day. Maybe it’s chanting or repeating a mantra. Maybe it’s quiet meditation.

If you’re really interested in the history of Kriya’s and want more context, there’s a great article out there by Chad Woodford titled “What is Kriya?” He goes into The Yoga Sutras to colour in some of the history and depth behind this ancient practice.

Why I chose a Meditation 40 Day Kriya Practice

I chose this meditation by Yoginimelbourne

I had attempted a 40 Day Sun Salutation – I think I made it to day 23. I had tried with a couple other methods: a meditation, a yoga nidra. I finally made the decision to just sit still for 10 minutes a day.

My yoga teacher, Brett Larkin, makes a great point: to cultivate the opposite. For someone like me, who is seeking a bit of personal evolution, and growth from this exercise – I need to seek out the opposite. For someone who wants to always be doing – this conscious effort to be still, is just the medicine I need.

I also tend to be hard on myself, so setting myself up for a tough go with a challenging yoga flow that I might not be able to show up to on all days of the month… is a recipe for disaster. (as I have learned!)

Anyways, I am nearing a week into the challenge, and it’s been interesting to see how I show up differently each day. The past few days I was tending to cramps, and so my meditation looked like a heating pad and laying in the sunny spot on the bed. My meditation nook has a “sunshine lamp” that I flick on and bask in when I do this in the early morning. What has remained constant – is a feeling of calm after the ten minutes and like I have filled my own cup and can now pour from that.

Follow along with me on my highlight on WLE on Instagram:

Multitasking Meditation

I’m here to argue that you don’t need to be in a perfectly still folded leg seat, to reap the benefits of meditation!

Meditation to me, is simply being present. Tuning in to the breath, or the sounds/smells/sights around you is a moment of meditation. Sure, you can get all fancy with different patterns of breathing or visualizations – but at its core, meditation is observing the waters of the mind.

Photo by Stephanie Janet Photohgraphy

I frequently meditate while multitasking. I love putting on my Balance morning gratitude meditation and listening to that as I shower or brush my teeth. I used to meditate on my bus commute to work in the morning. It did wonders for my anxiety!

Guided meditation is my go-to, but I am seeking silent awareness more and more these days. I find it soothing, especially if feeling low.

Guided Meditation Looks Like |

Usually an audio recording, and found all over Youtube, and on apps and music streaming services. These are a perfect way to ease into meditation. Find a voice you like, there are so many out there, that there is no need to grit your teeth through a voice too airy or fast or slow. Let the voice lead you through breathing, body awareness, visualization, relaxation.

Here are some examples:

  • Simple Habit – they call themselves the meditation app for busy people. Short & sweet.
  • Balance (HERE for Apple app users and HERE for Google app users) – a newer meditation app on the scene, they are offering one year free! I loved their full library selection. (Ofosu has the most calming voice)
  • Insight Timer – a long standing meditation app, but not one that I have gotten into
  • YouTube Guided Meditations – I love The Honest Guys
  • Spotify Meditations (like With Love, Esta -> Listen here!)

Silent Awareness Looks Like |

Tuning into the world around you, this type of meditation requires no equipment. Try cycling through your senses, and pay close attention to how things look, smell, feel, taste, and sound. Try feeling into each part of your body, from top of the head to toes, and seeing if you can release any tension you find along the way.

Here are some examples:

  • A walk outside without headphones in
  • Sitting quietly, somewhere comfy, eyes open or closed
  • Soaking in a bathtub
  • Standing outside in a slice of sunshine with your face turned up like a sunflower
  • Laying on your bed, couch or floor and breathing deeply
  • Taking in the sights, sounds, smells, tastes, sensations of an experience – fully present

Don’t get me wrong, I am not suggesting meditation while driving, or during a work presentation. 😉 But tasks like dish washing, showering, walking, or travelling via bus/taxi or train.

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What “mindless” task could you meditation through?

Yes, the act of “becoming still” may be lost on some of these multitasking meditations, but the mental activity and the art of habit building is present here too. I have woven meditation into my life more than I would have if I treated the experience as only attainable during a cross legged seat in total silence. In real life, that’s just not a realistic expectation. Awareness of the body and the surroundings, can be tapped into easier and easier with practice!

Happy Meditating!

With Love,

Esta

Where to Start with Meditation

Train the Puppy

I learned early in my years of meditation, that the mind wanders. It’s natural. It wants to problem solve, ruminate, forecast, report the weather. Practising meditation is like training a puppy. Know that the puppy will run around all over the place. It will get distracted. Redirect the puppy with all the love in your heart. The cool thing about humans is we can step into this third person seat, and just witness. That’s the seat of mediation. Witnessing.

It’s Not so Sacred

Meditation doesn’t need to be only in a cross legged position, with incense wafting in the air and a flower behind your ear. Meditation can be taking a few deep belly breaths as you wash dishes. Or taking your headphones out on a walk outside. Meditating can be done listening to a guided meditation or just checking in to all areas of the body. It’s more accessible than any other tool – one can always step into the seat of the witness and just be present.

Tune Out to Tune In

Yes, silent meditation is powerful. But the beginner meditator might want to download a meditation app, or search guided meditation on YouTube or Spotify. In as little as five minutes, you can be guided through a visualization, breathing exercise, or gratitude practise – all of which bring positives into your day immediately!

Thank you for reading this guide on where to get started with meditation. Find me on Instagram @withloveesta for more content on meditation!

Find a Comfortable Seat

When settling in for a meditation, or starting off a yoga class. The yoga teacher may ask you to “find a comfortable seat”. What does that mean? How do you find this comfortable seat?

Picture your pelvis as a three legged stool. You want to balance the weight of your body evenly between the front and back. Your sits bones would be two of the three legs, and your tailbone might be the third leg.

Speaking of sits bones… you may have heard that you should sit on your “sits bones” – or “sitz bones”. What are those exactly?

Ideally, we are sitting directly on top of the sitz bones, with a slight anterior tilt to the pelvis. This means if your pelvis were a bowl, filled to the brim with water, water would spill out the front of the bowl.

Wtih this base set up, it allows for lots of space to grow and expand upwards and allow for our biggest breath.

HOT TIP: sit on the edge of a meditation cushion, or yoga block, or even a fold or two of your yoga mat. The elevation of the hips will allow for a natural shift ofthe pelvis into an anterior pelvic tilt.

What do you think? Does this give more context to “finding a comfortable seat”?

Meditation SOS

Hi, I come to you today with a bit of a racing heart, and I feel like I have been shallowly breathing all day. Maybe you’ve had a day like this, too. So I thought together we could take a few deep breaths, remember that we are all powerful and sometimes that’s scarier than the problem in front of us.
But I find courage in the fact that within me, there is an energy and a power that will rival the energy and the power that is external to me. If that makes sense. What I’m saying is that we are very strong creatures. So let’s, let’s pull on that a little bit.


Let’s relax the shoulders, drop your shoulders away from your ears. Notice if you are slouching or if you’ve locked your jaw or your knees, just take a moment to scan over your body from head to toe and seek this tension.
Where do you feel it? Is it butterflies in your stomach? How do you describe that? Is it a tightness in your throat? Do you feel like maybe you swallowed a bubble? Just notice what it feels like for you, become very curious with these sensations and feel them out fully, just becoming more aware of your body and the signals it gives off for you.
Good. And if you want to close your eyes and take a few easy breaths with me, please feel free to do so, or keep your eyes open. Just a relaxed gaze in front of you.

We’re going to take a few deep breaths. It’s going to be in the style of box breathing, which has historically been very good for calming me down. And maybe it’ll be helpful for you too. So we’re going to breathe in to the count of four hold for four seconds, exhale to the count of four hold for four seconds and repeat.
It makes like a little square in your mind. If you can see it here.

So together, we’ll inhale.
Hold exhale, hold in through the nose. Hold I looked through the mouth, hold in through the nose, out through the mouth.


Now let your breathing return to normal. Thank you for joining me for a little unusual meditation. I think I needed it just as much as you with love Esta.